Ladies…Are You Plain Jane or Jane Of The Jungle? Menopause??? & I Will NOT Go Into That Pit!
Couple things on my mind this morning. First, ladies…did you know that wearing sexy undergarment can make you feel better about yourself. It can change the way you carry yourself, even if you are feeling not so great about the outside. Are you a plain white bra and panty girl or do you get a little racy with animal print or sassy colors? If you’re a plain Jane, I challenge you to get a little fun with the things only you may see…do it for you! I bet it will perk you up…maybe in more ways than one 
I need to replace one of mine cause its poking the crap out of the side of my girls. Do you know I have never been properly sized? I may do it for this next one…swallow my pride…suck it up…most likely suck it IN and do it.
Next thing…I think I may be starting the joys of menopause. For the last couple months I have had moments of feeling flushed…starting to sweat. Even some moments (this is embarrassing) where I sweat so much down my back that it runs down and soaks through the back seat of my pants…especially if they are a light fabric. I kept thinking it was because I put back on some weight but now…I just may be going down that road to menopause…BLAH! On top of the sweats, Ive been a little on the sick side the last couple days…stuffy…headache…sore throat and coughing & I think a low fever.
Next…I will not allow myself to sink into that nasty pit…but I am fighting it at the moment. Having email discussions with J about the divorce…just starting out…it stirs that mucky crappy pit and its bubbling up…Lord it HURTS! Crying again…and pissed…and sad…and depressed…and scared. I do not want to go back down…I want a life again. Pray for me please…I need strength…I also need a job.
Alright…lastly…Mayas comment on my blog yesterday (thank you) got me thinking…”You CAN do this. Don’t just talk it — WALK IT.” I do a lot of “talking” and not enough “walking”. I think we talk the talk sometimes to try to pump ourselves up…to get ourselves mentally prepared and excited about what we are preparing to do. I also think that sometimes that talk can end up psyching ourselves out and then we do nothing…so here is to more “walking”! I did well yesterday food wise…had to struggle through a few mental moments of wanting to eat more. I am not exercising again yet…but will add it in soon…just focused on getting in some good foods (which I did…blueberries, nuts, tomato, apple, salad) and not eating more than I need…simple right?
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I love that: walk it! I do a lot of talking too, and not nearly enough walking. I started more walking this morning (worked out in the morning and had a healthy breakfast instead of junk food and soda) and I plan to keep on walking!
I was divorced years ago, and there’s no way around the fact that it hurts like hell. Please have faith that after walking through this fire, you will be a stronger person, and you WILL make it through.
I am a sporty Jane when it comes to the bras. My girls are almost a size appart (always has been), so no fancy bra fits decently. Since I discovered the sports bras I was hooked! My mom buys them in buckets for me.
So, I have to direct my undie-creativity towards panties, lol.
It is a good plan to get half of the equation under control. You might not lose any weight, but once that becomes part of your routine, you introduce the second hald, and BOOM! weight comes off as crazy. That was my experience. I started with excersise routine, and after it becamse habitual, started watching my food and portions, and whoo-hoo!
Good luck!!!
LMAO!!!! I am going to have to try the racey side of me next time I shop for these garments. Like I stated I don’t let my honey see me in the light and believe me I would rather dress in the dark than run a risk of catching myself in the mirror. We will see how the new undies may spark some differences.
On a more serious note. I am really sorry to hear about your home life. Went I went through this, I must say keeping my diet under control and having a physical workout helped me more than one could imagine. I actually hung a punching bag that I would beat the mess out of almost every day. It is amazing how much weight you burn turning loose and just beating out your frustrations and pain. It builds some serious muscle tone too. I paired that up with walking/running almost every day. That is when I got really too tiny. It did help me though. It was tough to start, but it was better for me and my children. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang in there.
Debbi!!
This is so funny. Guess what I bought the other day–yep, pretty lacy panties and a pretty matching bra! I was thinking it would help make me feel a bit better.
As for menopause-dont even wanna think about that!
I do hope you get to feeling better.
As for J and the divorce and job situation, I’ve never stopped praying for you.
I think a lot of us do this, cause the talking helps us focus and get back on track.
Have a great day–love ya!
oh hell, it stole my comment!!
(((((DEB))))
My dear friend - your pain is my pain. I divorced 12 years ago and it was HELL!!! No easy way to put it. The years that followed weren’t pretty where the ex was concerned either - too many open wounds, and a child to raise jointly. It’s just been the last year or two that we’ve started being civil to one another.
Feeding your emotions is easy, but you need to take back that control. Be healthy for your kids - they need you. And, if nothing else, be happy and lose weight to spite J…make him realize what he has lost - a gem!!
When you are feeling blue - go for a walk….or call me before you eat! I’m here for you.
(((((DEB))))
My dear friend - your pain is my pain. I divorced 12 years ago and it was HELL!!! No easy way to put it. The years that followed weren’t pretty where the ex was concerned either - too many open wounds, and a child to raise jointly. It’s just been the last year or two that we’ve started being civil to one another.
Feeding your emotions is easy, but you need to take back that control. Be healthy for your kids - they need you. And, if nothing else, be happy and lose weight to spite J…make him realize what he has lost - a gem!!
When you are feeling blue - go for a walk….or call me before you eat! I’m here for you.
DEFINITELY get fitted by a pro! I need to do it myself, and I plan on doing it next time I shop for bras. When you lose weight, your size can change before you get your $$s worth out of your bras, in my opinion anyway, so that’s why I’ve waited so long, but frankly my boobs fall out of the bottom when I raise my arms! lol I’ve been wearing sports bras for weeks now! And they just make me look TERRIBLE, cuz I’m already flat-chested, and the sports bras just smash mine down even more… LMAO
Anyway, believe me, when I get the right fit, I’m definitely going all out… I want lacy ones, animal print ones, “cutsey” ones with hearts and stuff, maybe some sheer ones… OMG I want it all!!
And the undies to match! lol I imagine the fitting will be super embarrassing as my girls look like empty sacks thanks to breastfeeding… ugh… but hopefully it’ll be some old woman whose girls look a lot like mine… but older of course! Yeah, that’s wrong, but I’d be lying if I said it wouldn’t make me feel more comfortable. lol 
Anyway, great inspiration about walking the walk. Divorce sucks, and I hope everything works out well for you.
All right, walk it not talk it, I like that!
I have a suggestion, go to a place that specializes in mastectomy bras, they really know how to size you right. I have found (at least around here) that department stores laidies don’t really know much more than I do about getting it right. Just try on this and this one and this one until I find one I think is ok! I can do that by myself with out someone watching.
yep love me some nice undies.. bras is a challenge cause I have an odd size.. especially now..
but I make sure I am always dressed all the way if you know what I mean..
from head to toe b ut I am super girlie too so those things I need to feel good.
As usual I love your blog. It’s been so dfficult trying to walk the walk, but I’m finally sick of talking. It took me a long time tho I love to hear myself talk.
I’m sending lots more hugs your way, you must have a ton by now.
Its so funny to read this. And friend of mine and I were talking about the nice undies the other day and made plans to go buy some new cute ones this weekend and I do think it gives you a little something extra when you know you have something great on underneath
I HATE shopping for underwear and stuff like that.
Glad you got in some good food
I don’t have time to read any blogs. Just coming by to say hi to my favorite Debbie!
I love nice undies! When I was heavy, I used to wear “granny” pants, but no more! Ahh, welcome to menopause, I share your pain. Hugs to you.