Big Decision Today…I’m Scared
I have a decision to make today… I am scared and unsure. Its time to either go back into the marriage or end it for good. I’m scared of making the wrong decision. I want my marriage, but not how it was and it’s been so long, I’m afraid of what it will be like. I’m afraid to risk being hurt again. Can I fully trust? I gave trust, beyond my gut and I was deceived and betrayed. I hate what he’s done but love him. I can’t not love him. If I let go and end it, will I regret it? Will I be able to trust anyone else? I don’t know that I can. When the person you trusted more than anything, betrays it…how can you believe anyone can be true. My head is spinning.
I want to be on here reading blogs but I need to focus. Maybe tonight I will. A decision will be made today…please pray for God to lead me, to lead him, to make the right decision. Thanks for the love & prayers!
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((hugs)) Thinking and praying for you and for God’s guidance
That is such a hard decision to make and it makes sense taht you are scared and unsure about what is right. I just finalized my divorce 2 weeks ago and even though I had my boyfriend next to me, there was a sense of sadness and I had my final cry for the 10 years I was with him. I know you’ve been with your hubby since high school so it’s that much harder for you.
I will keep you in my prayers. I will certainly pray for God to lead you and your husband to make the right decision.
Good luck.
When the trust was betrayed, it has to be rebuilt. No wonder your head is spinning. Should you trust words? Actions? Time?
Do you have extraordinary precautions in place to ensure trust?
My thoughts are with you today. I have found a lot of help on this site www.marriagebuilders.com
They deal with broken marriages and have a great success rate of rebuilding great, loving, kind, and honest marriages. The site is Christian-based.
Hang in there….Life is too short just keep that in mind… And remember what you deserve..
MJ
Oh my…I wish I could give you that one piece of advice that will make it all better, but I can tell you this: Trust your gut. I believe that our intuition is a gift from above, and somewhere inside of you, you already know the answer. Sometimes the scary part is actually admitting it to yourself. Good luck, and I’ll say a prayer for you. Hugs!!
I’m sorry you have to make this decision. I know you will make the one that is right for you and your family, it might not feel like it at first, but in the end it was the path that you were supposed to take for whatever reason.
I will pray that God guides you to where He wants it to be… trust and believe that whatever decision you have made you done it with God on your side….He will never leave us nor neglect us and He will guide you through this too… i will keep you in my prayers that whatever you have decided you will have peace in it…
love barbie
I know this must be such a difficult decision. I agree with Angie when she says trust your instincts and do what feels right for you. There is always a path for us to take, which often provides better oppotunities, but also often means going through uncomfortable and difficult situations to get there. You are in my prayers and thoughts.
Betrayal sucks. BUT, we must be willing to forgive and go forward in order to nourish our own hearts and souls. I’m sorry you’re in this position, it hurts and you don’t deserve that.
You’ll be in my heart today as you make this difficult decision. (((((((hugs))))))))) and ((((((((hugs))))))))) and ((((((((hugs))))))))) and ((((((((hugs)))))))))))))).
Trust your instincts and trust God to lead you in making this decision. I had to make the same decision 2 years ago and at the time, I thought my world would completely fall apart and spent the first year and a half feeling sorry for myself. Once I picked myself up and turned it all over to God, I started seeing the rainbows and the promises He has for me and my kids.
I will be praying for you during this time.
Follow your gut and your heart,and don’t settle for anything that you don’t deserve. I will be thinking of you
Bless your heart. My thoughts and prayers will be with you at this time of need. Take your load to the Savior and He will guide you in your decisions. Hang in there, and things will work out the way they are supposed to.
Go with your gut. I know that relationships are hard, and need work. But sometimes we have to let go to. How do you truly feel?
Praying for you!
Oh Darling. I have no idea what to tell you to do. All I can say is that I feel for you…I really do. My husband did something to me and I thought I would never be able to trust him again. The pain was almost unbearable and my life seemed like it was always going to be impossible to live. I just want you to know that even though you and I have never met, that I love you and will be praying DILIGENTLY for you…as this is an extremely tough situation. Whatever decision you decide to make…make it with a sound mind and a clear head. Love, Sarah Jade
My darling Debbi I am so sad that you must have this cross to bear right now. You may not like what I have to say but I need to be honest with you. Trust, in my opinion is what marriage is all about. It is something that is earned and continues to be earned for the duration of the marriage. It is what makes the bond of matrimony so sacred. Once that trust is broken, is violated it takes an enormous amount of strength to rebuild it. Many times it is impossible to go back. You are the only one who knows whether or not your spouse has what it takes to change his spots and you have what it takes to erase the memory of your suffering. You are the only one who knows whether your marriage is worth saving or not. I would advise you to make the decision that respects you and your children the most and allows all of you to be happy again. Only you knows whether you should be staying in the relationship or leaving. Please ask God to guide you in the right direction. Consider your children’s future and what example you want them to learn from. What seems very difficult to do today usually pays off tomorrow. Be honest with yourself and trust Him to lead you where it is you and your children need to be. I will be praying for you honey!
Whatever decision you come to…. don’t look back and agonize over whether it was the right one. It will be the right one for you. There’s is no moving forward if you’re focused on what’s behind. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
So praying for God to be with you and guide you and give you clarity of thought and His peace. Hugs to you, Kama
It’s never easy. I agree….if you listen to the inner voice…you know the decision you have to make….and it is not necessarily the one you want to make. I chose to end a 20 year marriage that I always thought would be forever, because…when all was said and done…he betrayed my trust, and I couldn’t get past that and believe in my heart that it would never happen again. As much as I wanted to believe otherwise… We tried , but something special was forever broken. Trust your gut…..you know …on some level what is truth. Trust yourself.
I’m praying for you and I know that is a hard decsion. Just know that where God is there is not confussion. My heart is with you.
Debi, all I can say to you is you are in my heart and on my mind. You can give all the thought to this you want to, but you will forever wonder if you did the right thing, no matter what you choose to do. Unfortunately I have worn similiar shoes to the ones you are wearing now, hopefully different, I would not wish what mine did on anybody, well actually there were two of them, hubby now is #3. But that is another story. Just remember all your buddies here are here for you if and when you need us. We have big ears and wide shoulders. Take care, do a lot of thinking and a lot of talking to the man upstairs and like someone else said, make your decision and don’t look back. Hang in there.
Just checking in to make sure you are doing okay.